It's hard graduating from college and then moving 1600 miles away from familar faces who have been good to me. I'm not sure why friendships that were once strong slowly fade away because of 'opposite paths' or directions. But i've come to the conclusion that saying goodbye to some of those faces is a great thing.
Often I pour an abundance of my heart into friendships to realize that the people i've poured myself into are not as commited to me as i am to them and i'm not saying that we abandon people at the first site of a lesser commitment, but at the same time i'm not sure that it's emotionally healthy for me to hang on with all my might to people who just don't care as much as i do.
So, i'm saying goodbye, not to a lot of people but i can think of 4 that have caused me some heartache and so..I'm letting go.
Amy once told me that God brings different people into your life at just the right time and that they aren't necessarily supposed to stay for the long haul, its okay to miss them but try not to dwell on what once was.
It's time to let go.
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I have always had the problem of letting go.
On one website I read on..they call it "seasons". Someone is in your life for a "season", some for a "spring" and some for a year. Some....last for decades.
What is weird, is the ones you THOUGHT you would always have..are NOT the ones that "come through" for you. It is the oddball, the "suprises" that stay in touch, and are true long term friends.
I hate Committing more to a relationship, pouring myself into them..and then...feeling "stood up". Its an awful feeling.
I have tried in the past..to earnestly pray for "ONE" 'best friend'. On a couple of occasions..I have had them admit to me, they had been praying for hte same thing, and INSTANTLY, we "chose" each other. THat was that. For a season. Then, they moved, or I moved, or We changed classes or jobs...then Others...have taken me by surprise, and ended up being my friend without me trying. Its odd.
Reminds me of that song:
"make new friends
but keep the old
one is silver
and the other
Gold".
WHere ever you are at miss S..you are loved.
This is a painful truth with the revolving door of church. It's hard to know up front when to pour yourself into someone and when to stop. Back in the day, it was recommended that pastor's wives shouldn't have friends. That's one way of dealing with it, huh?
I've learned that it's sometimes best to always have open arms for anyone seeking a friend, but not to lay requirements on the friendships. Most friends don't live up to requirements, and then there are a few that will surprise you and far exceed those expectations. And you have to take them as they come. And if the ones who exceed your expectations aren't the ones you were hoping for, better get off the high horse and hold on to them!
ahhh...that's hard...I understand...It has basically been my life too. But I try to grab on to what I have now too...though, I hope you are ok with me still leaving you a note or two :)
Thanks for not letting me go...its so great to have this even though you all are so far away.
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