What do I think? I think that Reunions can be overated.
In about 2 weeks camp BaYouCa is having there staff reunion and while i'm sure when i go i will be entirely grateful for going, part of me thinks that reunions are overated.
The truth is i had a very struggling summer and the few people that i actually became good friends are the ones that i already keep in touch with. I don't need a reunion to talk to them because the friendships didn't end and didn't stop growing when camp ended.
I just don't understand why people can show up after months or even years (for instance highschool) put big smiles on there faces and act like everyone is still close and still best friends...because the truth is they aren't. Life changes people...I guess a part of me is a little bitter..because at reunions all of these people who didn't talk to you before start talking to you like you're old buddies...and quite frankly it ticks me off!!!!
Where were all of these 'friendly' staffers this summer when i needed a friend? Where were all of these mature people when i was left in the dark because of stupid Jr.High issues that don't matter anymore!!!
Maybe i am bitter...and maybe in order to get over it i have to go to this retreat because while there are people there that i would rather not see again, people who have hurt me..there are people like the Warners who showed love to me and if anything..i'll go to this thing just to see them...because they were the ones who made my summer bareable and not entirely lonely. They supported me and comforted me, and they have always made me feel welcomed.
So, Amy i'm sure you'll read this sometime...i'm going to this retreat for you and the rest of those crazy people who mean so much to me.
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Hi There! I enjoyed your thoughts. I'm with you on the reunion thing. I make a HUGE effort to try & stay in touch with former classmates, co-workers, etc. It's hurts to get the brush off from these people, then when we do happen to meet up, I'm supposed to act like they answered all my e-mails and returned all my calls? People take each other for granted- bigtime. You aren't strange for feeling the way you do. It shows me you have a heart. That you love others and want them to respond to that love in ways you can recognize. Thanks for sharing!
yeah, i don't even bother with some people that i haven't seen in a long time...because so much has happened in my life that there just is no way to pick up where we left off (even sometimes with people that i was close to at some time or other). i always give everyone a chance, though--if they make a big effort to re-establish a friendship--i match the effort. if they don't, i don't.
Well..I guess I'm different. I know how busy everyones life is..and the friends that I have ..and keep are difficult. I guess I see it..as God gives people to me..for a "season"..sometimes that season is VERY intense short time...sometimes..its a lifetime..however each is IMportant, and fulfills Gods way in my life.
I cherish people...I can't afford to blow them off..because maybe when they RE inter my life..they have an important lesson I am supposed to learn from.
ANd as far as people have hurt me..I like seeing them again..to see if I am strong enough to handle it THIS time.
all this..well I'm going to have to think more on this subject.
I agree with Donna...people are important and life is busy...
.. and they may need you to be at the reunion to apologize to you. Even just seeing you there may remind them of how wrong they were about you and even if they don't apologize, maybe they won't be as quick to be as unkind to someone like that again.
As long as you have realistic expectations, you won't be disappointed.
(i don't usually like reunions either, I must admit. I find "small talk" exhausting and very unsatisfying. I'd rather have one long, deep conversation that fifteen little shallow ones. I'm also painfully shy in a big group.)
I understand and especially now that I am older and some what out of the loop...I loved them growing up there because they were my friends but now being older my friends are spread abroad and the staff is cool but it's not the same...but I am glad you'll be there to hang out with the old gals like shirl, tiff, and I! We love you and I am excited to hang out with you at christmas!!
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