A lesson learned on marriage :)

It seems like every month I learn something new about marriage and how to make a marriage not just survive but to thrive.



It dawned on me the other day as I was trying to pin point the cause of great irritableness/anger in my life, that for the past 3 months my marriage has just been surviving. Now I recognize that there will be those periods in any marriage where it simply goes into survival mode but while survival mode is good it is not ideal, nor can the marriage stay in survival mode before even surviving begins to turn into slowly dying. So instead of botteling everything up and hoping that we were just in a phase that we would eventualy get out of, I finally decided to try to communicate the subject.



Needless to say I cried a lot. It was really hard because we haven't tried to communicate like that in a very long time. The whole time I had Hebrews 12:11 running through my mind which helped me to not just give up, walk away, and shove the dirty laundry back into the closet. By the end of it all we had reached some conclusions.

After our conversation it felt like the weight of the world had been lifted off of my shoulders, and the dirty dishes, and the scattered toys, and the laundry that needed to be put away no longer felt overwhelming or irritating. But simply just apart of another days work.

The lesson of the month about marriage: A lack of communication becomes one of the biggest barriers to having a thriving marriage.

On a not so, but almost so, side note---

I've often told many friends that I feel as though God allows me to hit trials faster than he allows others to hit those same trials. As a result, my husband gets to be brought into those trials as well :) I'm not so sure he understood that about God and I before he married me. Although in the last 2+ yrs he has often said "Vanessa sure was right about that adventure she said I'd have with you."