Okay, Okay, okay! I know it seems a little bit "too much" right, some of you are probably thinking, "Yes, we know you're married, we were there...hello!"
So Maybe celebrating 1 month of newlywed bliss seems to be overdoing this whole newlywed and in love thing but if you knew what kind of struggles (good ones but still struggles) we've shared in this one month period then you would be celebrating too.
I won't delve into any deep details but there are plenty of struggles for a couple that had a short dating and engagement period to have after becoming newlyweds. There was so much about Carl that I just didn't know and things that i thought i knew, well, thats all they really turned out to be, just thoughts...lol.
I still haven't slept through a whole night with someone else in the bed, and I'm still getting used to the whole being and feeling 'sexy' to someone else. That alone has been a BIG adjustment....and I'm still learning about me, about him, and what's good for us as a couple.
We've had plenty of arguments...we've had more than i thought we would have, a lot of mis-communication, and mis-understandings on both of our parts.
ANd YET, I feel closer to him than ever, and our love grows deeper. It feels good to come to conclusion on certain issues, it feels good to start routines and to have them. I used to HATE routines, ask Vanessa and Daisy they could tell you how much i used to hate them and now I'm realizing that marriages....need some kind of routine.
During our engagement I used to shrudder when people would say 'take your time and establish some routines..." and now I know how good that advice really was.
I have also used this upcoming 1 month mark to look at and appreciate those that i know who have been married a lot longer. Believe it or not all of you married ones inspire me...i look at them and I say..." okay they've been through a whole lot more and their still thriving in love...Surely Carl and I can do this..."
Can I ask you all a question have you ever woken up and looked at the person next to you and say to yourself "What did i get myself into?" lol....in a good way of course.
Sometimes i still feel like Carl and I are just dating and then we go on a date and come home and we can have sex and I say ....Oh, that's right we're married now...lol.
Maybe that's too much information but hopefully it's made you laugh.
So there's that feel free to make fun of me...just be gentle...remember i'm a sensitive being and I"m a lot like Calvin ----just about anything makes me feel like its the end of the world...lol.
5 comments:
don't worry...your normal!
Yup, for sure!
I never let myself think
"this is forever" for a LONG LONG time, probably 5 or 6 years into marriage. It was just too much for me to try to grasp. So I just tried to think about today, right now, maybe tomorrow...
it's a skill you'll need desperately when you have kids!!!
i've been married 16 months now and i still wake up next to luke and say, wow, i can't believe we can sleep naked in the same bed!!!
well, i don't think i think about marriage the same way you and vanessa do...but maybe this will encourage you anyway: it helps me tremendously to remind myself everyday of two things: luke is a gift to me from God, and i am a gift to him from God. and this challenges me to treat him like a special gift...and to behave myself as if i was a gift. it may be silly, but it works...and creates in me a continually thankful spirit.
Thanks everyone, it's good to know that i'm normal. I said to Carl yesterday "We're not the first newlywed couple to have issues are we...?"
It's good to know we're not alone and it's good to have the encouragement..
yep, yep, yep...
live for today....
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