My trip for Angela's wedding went well except for all of the 'minor' car mis-happenings which ultimately resulted in me not getting to see Elizabeth...None the less i made it home safely with few scars to show for it.
OH (if you are a man please do not read the following...)
The ladies at Vintage through me a Bridal shower last night and i must say i laughed and turned more shades of red than i ever thought that i possibly could.
I received some great basic needs that every 'new home' should have...and then some 'sassy' stuff as V likes to call it.
I of course rushed home and tried on the 'sassy' outfits to find that lingerie doesn't fit the way that i would like it to and i tried to remember the fact that it isn't supposed to fit like regular clothing...so what's a 'little tighter/smaller in areas' is a VERY good thing...but i must admit it definately hightened my insecurities which left me crying at about 12:00 am.
As most of you know i have insecurities and please try to bare with me when i post such things so openly...i think often it's easy for other to tell me..to just 'get over it.' ( and i have had many of thin people tell me such things...ukk.) Trust me i tell myself to just 'get over it''''and yet...i STILL struggle. So please reach inside yourself and remember what it felt like to realize that someone else other than you was about to see it all...
I remind myself continously though to trust God, and then the people that love me, to realize that what He says is true....it's hard sometimes though...when so many different things come into my head that say things that are just too harsh to repeat.
So, i pray a lot. I mean I PRAY A LOT..because i don't want to choose to not wear lingerie just because i feel insecure in it...In fact i know that IT IS indeed something that Carl will love...so i try to keep him in mind when i am placing new undergarments on. I try to remember that i'm marrying a man that thinks that i have some pretty HOT Stuff naturally attached to me...and i also try to remember that marriage and even sex though ment to be for me too isn't always about me.
I think i need some theropy...lol.
I guess it's a lot like Hannah told me the other night...i have to come out of my "innoncence'' and find that "sex icon" within me. I think that it's going to take some time and i'm trying to start a little now so that when Carl and I get married i'm not wrapping myself in a sheet everytime i have to get up and go to the bathroom.
So to ladies who have been married for a few years , what can i do that will help me come out of my 'shell" so to speak...
Oh, the one other problem that i've run into...they're just doesn't seem to be any sexy lingerie other than panties and bra's for women my size...most department stores only go up to an 18 and i'm a 22....so here's another question...how do i find good, sexy ligerie that makes me feel confident, without having to pay a fortune-that was the other dilema I looked on line just to find very cute, sexy things that were way over priced for what they were... AND NO VANESSA! I WILL NOT BY LINGERIE OFF OF EBAY!
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oh honey...ebay sells new stuff too : )
I'll think about this....we'll talk.
I may joke, but I struggle with these same issues. There are lingerie stores online that cater to the "full figured woman". Your going about this the right way though, keep praying and thank God for your body, the body that Carl will LOVE!!
There are places like TJ Maxx and such that may carry them.
I so understand what you are going through though. I really felt insecure going into the first night especially. I guess it helped when I focused on him. The way he treated me and reacted to me helped too! It takes awhile sometimes to feel comfortable too...I wasn't ever one to prance around in my birthday suit so I don't really even now. It's also nice that you can have covers...and to be honest...the stuff doesn't stay on long anyway. If you just need to talk give me a call!! My size 16-18 body was there once...now it's wacked out even more! :)
My first comment would be: my husband likes a sexy bra and underwear as much as any other lingerie any day!...don't put yourself in a box.
Second: don't forget that Carl will probably be just as insecure. Don't forget that this will be the first time he "bares all" too. And trust me, there is definitely a sex icon ideal placed on men as well as on women. Remem ber you are doing this TOGETHER.
V- we will talk :)
Hannah- thank you for all of the wonderful advice
Amy- I will probably call you sometime :) Yeah
Elizabeth- Thanks for the encouragement :)
I agree with Elizabeth... D likes the cute little shorts and cami more than most lingerie.
Also, try sleeping nude. I personally don't like it, but it does tend to help with that "sex icon" previously mentioned!
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I LOVE their Stuff...You can put in "feminine", Business ...its all Great.
LOVE IT!!
I personally think of myself as a Hottie. How you think of yourself pervades your actions. I tease about..'OH Yah..HE WANTS ME"....It helps to make it a LOT more LIght hearted honey...Yah its Sex...and Nakedness and Fluids...but most of all...it's supposed to be FUN...so don't get mired in the mechanics of it all..>LAUGH out Loud!!
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